Both our capacity for connection and our capacity for separation have to be cultivated into responses that are life-giving and life-sustaining. The power to hold and the power to let go, to connect and to disconnect, each of these powers can be used for good or for ill.
Ethical maturity learns the difference and knows the right time for each. Neither power can be valorized as an absolute good without risking harm.
— Rebecca Parker • Proverbs of Ashes (2001)